28 Mar Blueprints for Caring: Miracle questions
Reframing gives students a more optimistic and hopeful picture of their world after moderate problems like having a disagreement, doing poorly on a test, or feeling embarrassed in front of their peers.
Ask students to imagine that they are having a bad day or dealing with a difficult situation such as feeling embarrassed or having an argument or disagreement with a friend. Then suggest that the next time this happens, they can “reframe” their experience by answering the following questions;
- What is going well right now?
- How would you like to feel when you come to school?
- Who could you count on in school to help you?
Ask students to discuss the meaning of the equation E + R = O
- The event plus your response equals the outcome
- This equation helps us focus on what we can control. We may not be able to control what happens or what others do, but we can try to respond in a new way that changes the total outcome of the event. By thinking in this way, we empower ourselves.